A while ago, I posted how it was becoming impossible for me to change Aria’s diaper. Based on some advice and things I had read about elimination communication and Montessori style potty learning, we decided to start using the potty.
In this post, I would like to share how we’re doing things and why. This is entirely based on what works for us at this moment in time and for Aria.
To be honest, I already tried putting her on a potty last summer. I read about elimination communication, but somehow I felt very overwhelmed by the idea. To regularly…
On our first date, my husband, Dani, and I went for drinks in one of my favourite bars. He ordered the first round, and I ordered the second. When I asked him what he wanted, he specified he didn’t want a straw. This was in March 2017. I had never heard about zero waste or single-use plastics.
I ordered the drinks at the bar and made sure to pass his ‘no-straw’ request. The waiter forgot and when he realised he quickly took the straw out and threw it in the trash. When I got back to our table, I explained…
As we saw that Aria was becoming more mobile, we started evaluating if our living room was safe for her and if we needed to make some changes. We don’t have a playpen, so Aria has access to the whole living room at all times.
We started by making two changes:
As you might have seen in our stories on Instagram, we are trying to teach Aria some signs. In this post, I want to explain why we decided to teach her signs and how we do it.
We do this for several reasons:
I want to talk in a later post about how we use signs to communicate with Aria, but first, I want to explain how language in general works in our home.
My mother tongue is Dutch, and Dani’s is Spanish. We speak English with each other. Matteo only spoke Dutch until recently. On top of this, we live in Brussels, which is mainly French-speaking.
We try to be conscious of the language we use in our home for two reasons:
There are many conflicting opinions and advice about every possible topic regarding parenting, especially when it comes to babies:
As a parent, I try to follow my instinct, but sometimes it’s hard to understand what the best thing is that I can do for my…
I breastfed Matteo for a year, and I have been breastfeeding Aria for over 7 months. These are the things I wish I had known before starting on my first breastfeeding journey:
My number one tip is to already select a lactation expert (for example a midwife with a specialisation in lactation) while you’re pregnant so that they can come to visit you at home after you give birth. I honestly don’t think my breastfeeding journeys would have been a success without the help of the specialised midwives that came by after my babies were born. …
If you’ve read Aria’s birth story (from Dani’s perspective), you know that she was born at high speed. The gynaecologist didn’t arrive yet. The midwife was preparing something in our room, apparently unaware of how imminent Aria’s birth was. When she was born, Dani caught her, and not much later, we were both holding her in our hands. I was in shock. I didn’t know what to do. I was looking for confirmation that she was ok.
What happened next is a blur to me. Someone took her. I thought the midwife had taken her to weigh her. I was…
When I was pregnant with my son, I read a lot about pregnancy and babies, but not much about giving birth. I figured that there were going to be midwives in the hospital who helped labouring women on a daily basis, so I would be in good hands.
The experience turned out to be traumatic for me, and I ended up having nightmares for a long time after my son was born. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was terrified to give birth again. …
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